To Trust or Not to Trust

Most of us chat and make friends online... and this is mostly done with the purpose of dating and friendship. Many times when we are lonely or tired with the friends we already have, we feel the urge to explore for new friends, and so the search begins....Social Networking sites are innumerable...After joining these places, we search for friends and partners.

When we join friends, we exchange scraps, blurbs, mails and messages, which are all online methods of communication. Next what is asked for is mobile number and photos (in case one has not uploaded any)... here one starts questioning that should there be a limit to this or should one be free to give out their number. Does face-value matter that photos are needed to be sent? What if this is misused? Now let us rewind a bit and answer the same, had we met a friend, whom we knew but lost contact with in the past months and they had asked for the same, would there be the same hesitance that we displayed now??? NO....... so why now??-- Its because there is a lack of trust....

Friendship or any relation in that matter, is built on trust, and that is very important.

We intend to trust people we see but those whom we dont see, we feel are untrustworthy. Is it so always?????????If we chat with someone or have been doing so for the past few years, then why not we trust the person? Many times, the people we have been with for years turn out as back-stabbers, whom we know and have regular acquaintances with. Then how is to be defined? Does Trust always bear its fruit with time?

If this was not the psychology amongst many of us, we would have not created the difference of having Real friends- those we meet and Virtual friends- those we met over chat and social sites. We would not consider chat friends as people whom we do not share our personal information with.Once we join such places, expecting privacy would really be a wrong choice as then in the first place itself one should not have done so. We would never meet chat friends and never keep any serious approach towards them. How fair would this be? here comes in the lack of trust... Why do we get so scared to send pictures? Why are we hesitant about exchanging numbers? Why do we reject the idea of meeting a chat friend? Why do we sign in by fake identity?

We dont trust people we meet online as we feel that they might not be what they show to be. We do not exchange numbers as we feel that they might misuse the number or start behaving unpleasantly..how could you forget the long hours of chat online? and how is that going to change if it becomes a telephonic conversation? This is after all the same person we chatted long hours online. Why are we so scared? when we give fake identities and numbers, is it not a sort of cheating also? Are we also not hurting the trust of others?

We hear cases of rapes, abuses, and so on, after getting drunk, drugged or a rendez-vous. We hear cases of people being cheated with their numbers and accounts being forged and misused. We hear cases of people getting robed, kidnapped and so on, after their address and so on came into wrong hands. True that these are real cases and such things do happen.... in such a place where nothing can be certain of and what we see could be false also,the age of Commercialization has played its role also. we have developed a tendency of doubting everything to play safe. There is nothing wrong in doing so.....because what we need to understand is that what we are exposed to shapes our thought. Had these not happened, the Trust factor would have remained.

There is a dilemma always, on whom to trust and whom not to. Everyone says that I am honest and trust me, but then later there are some of the same people who cheat us- whether real or virtual friends. When all say the same, it is very hard to believe as then, some who say mean it truly, while others just say it meaninglessly. In such a situation, people who are truly honest, suffer. They feel that their feelings and friendship is genuine, but the other person, always keeps doubting, now lets imagine, if we faced the same.. how would it feel? How it feels when we love someone and they in return refuses or rejects-- feels shattered...

Those who dont trust, should just give it a try, do not just blindly refuse on the basis of being chat friends. And those, who are in real just with the intention of playing and hurting others feelings should avoid doing so... what would you gain out of it? Those who are honest, and feel that their relationship is not justified on the grounds of lack of trust...should be understanding and realise that what happens around us, where nothing can be trusted, and the tendency is there, if you are really genuine, then keep trying till your honesty is realised.

All that has been said here, I have said out of my personal experience.. and this is what I want to share with people. I dont trust people easily but a few times when i have faced the same, is when I realised that when someone genuinely approaches and is rejected on the terms of mistrust-- it hurts.